“It aches for the coming – it can hardly wait! And it doesn’t lie. If it seems slow in coming wait. It’s on its way. It will come right on time.” Habakkuk 2:3 [MSG]
Life Lessons on #Goals
Thinking about this subject matter brings mixed emotions for me. I’ve always been big about #goal making. I’d buy the fancy journals, download the planner apps, even take the daring steps of being ‘honest’ with myself during self-evaluations (all the things I thought people are supposed to do when they make goals for themselves). By the time I was through I’d created a healthy to-do list and would feel ready to take on the world! However, that’s kind of where the train would stop and I’d get off the ride. . .
It’s not like I ever planned to fail . . . Who really sits there and writes out a #goal for themselves they didn’t first see themselves having? Like anyone convinced and crazy enough to envision that one day change could actually be a part of their existence, I believed (somewhat) in the possibilities of my greater. And yet! Less than half way into my process I’d find myself wandering aimlessly; still trying to keep my goals in front of me but getting pulled into the unavoidable vacuum that is life, and dashing my dreams off to the side in a frustrated tantrum.
Maybe like me you’ve encountered one or all of the following:
- That unexpected happening just ate up the savings fund
- Didn’t qualify by certain standards
- Too many in that new place don’t like or don’t want me there
- Shared my goal with the WRONG person
- Half-way through I changed my mind!
CooJoe the dog could have just eaten my list. . . The reason didn’t all too much matter.
“Where I was most at fault was I always found an excuse”.
In my 20s, I changed goals just about as much as I did my hair styles!
It can be the most amazing feeling in the world to have a #goal. Especially if it’s one that you KNOW from way down in the gut will change your life forever. My career path goals must have changed at least 5 -7 times during my 20s (which isn’t terrible but not the most effective means to get one’s life on course). I was always just encouraged to ‘do well’ in school, so I did that. And Caribbean parents in general want their kids to become some form of a practitioner or leader that people admire and will make the family ‘safe money’ (the lawyers, the Dr’s, the professors, accountants and business owners).
- Captivating Potential
It’s crazy how over time we can get so dependent on the norm of the system that we don’t plan our route as an individual. We assume and figure for certain things because of how it happened and what it did for so and so. Forgetting that so and so has an alternate purpose and your destiny serves for a different matter than theirs. If you’re reading this and something smells familiar in your own life it’s cool! The great thing I’ve learned about #goals is that once you understand the objective you find yourself moving stronger in the path of success!
So here are my top 5 points on #Goals
1 – Strategize in stages & pace yourself
- The most major thing I seemed to always forget when venturing out to conquer something new in life was that it cannot happen overnight – (not for long lasting success anyway). Most 20-year-olds lack patience so in retrospect, I guess my outlook isn’t the most shocking factor in the world. Regardless of the size of your #goal, there are always steps and stages. Even for the stuff you think is cake and shouldn’t take a lot of time to complete, there will always be a beginning, middle and an end.
- Process and assess along the way. It’s healthy and necessary to know what works for you and what doesn’t. Don’t be afraid to be honest with yourself and fix / change your plan where necessary. There is no shame in change if in the end you still walk out a winner.
- Encourage yourself along the way! 🙂 Celebrate your victories and even your not so shining successes. I think it’s better to see the error than to remain oblivious. Ignorance is not always bliss.
2 – Be held accountable
- A smart person who makes a #goal knows what they are getting into BEFORE they start. It’s called being accountable to yourself. If you care about where you’re going then you’ll make the effort to ensure you get to the end. How many know that when you fail to do your homework once you’re knee deep in that thing you learn AND feel the hard way:
- important info missed that could have saved time and money
- there is no passion for the process so in turn there is no joy in completing tasks
- being ill-prepared mentally for all of the challenges and tests of commitment will make you a miserable student or a quick drop out candidate
I’m not saying to have everything in place before you get going but understand what you’re getting yourself into. It’s about how you start just as much as making your start.
- Whatever the cost of accountability know it won’t be as expensive as avoiding, procrastinating or rebelling [Prov 19:21]. A God ordained #goal that’s tied to purpose will work itself out in your life one way or another [Rom 8:28]. And whatever the cost, know He never intends to hurt but always wants to help [Jer 29:11]. Even if we can’t see or understand why [losing friendships, ending relationships, and/or deactivating social media – Isa 55:8,9]. Your destiny is tied to every #goal decision you make and the quicker we decide we’re done with making foolish choices and taking silly chances the better we position ourselves as a sure-fire success in the making.
3 – Invest!
- Things of great value will cost. The higher you esteem to go the greater the price. Prepare your mind to pay the cost. If you’re prepared mentally to spend all (financially and otherwise) on your best you coming to be then doing what’s required won’t cause your feet to drag, but would rather push you to overcome.
- Never believe you’re too good or not in need of something. If it has something to do with your #goal you could learn something new, meet somebody new or accomplish something connected to your goal that you weren’t originally anticipating.
4 – Remember there is no box
- Every process is unique and customized to what will make each individual the most effective. So never compare the journey and never restrict what you have access to. You may have to take a different route and it could take longer to achieve the #goal compared to someone else because of a character flaw, or the goal requiring the cultivation of a gift for the destination.
- If no one else is doing it you may just be on to something! Many of us are easily bamboozled by ‘if it ain’t broke don’t fix’. But what if ‘it’ could use an upgrade? Don’t cheat your #goal by not venturing where other’s haven’t gone. Neither feel like a failure if you’re not embraced where most are. Possibilities are always endless.
5 – There is always more (you can’t progress if you’re stagnant)
- I’ve had the recent wake-up call that a ‘free day’ is not an excuse to be stagnant. If you know you could be planning, executing or fulfilling some part of your #goal process you should just bite the bullet and get it done.
- Don’t allow yourself to get stuck! Whatever the disappointment or upset it can’t be worse than the regret of not following the path and pursuing the destiny that was meant for you. People go, situations change but when you allow life to wear on you and make you quit you’re forfeiting what only YOU can control and that’s progress.
A #goal is always worth the effort and experience when it’s
original, personal and purposed!
Sneak peek for next week🙂 My 5 reflections on #people